By Maria Fontaine
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Everyone will experience difficult things at some time in their life, whether the sting of injustice or the pain of rejection, or the grief of losing a loved one or other tragic circumstances. Such experiences can leave what we might call wounds to our spirit. But past circumstances, pain, and hurt do not have to dictate our present outlook, because God has made a way for us to overcome through Jesus.
The Bible says, “If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new” (2 Corinthians 5:17). As we immerse ourselves in Jesus and His Word and the new life He has given us, the old things will pass away, and over time, the things from the past that used to plague us will become less painful and prominent.
The Bible teaches us to examine our lives and empty our hearts of things in the past that may hinder us in some way: “Let us search out and examine our ways and turn back to the Lord. Let us lift our hearts and hands to God in heaven” (Lamentations 3:40–41). The author of Hebrews warns us to “watch out that no bitterness takes root among you, for as it springs up it causes deep trouble, hurting many in their spiritual lives” (Hebrews 12:15).
The Bible also encourages us to seek help and support from others when we need it, and to confess our faults one to another and pray one for another that we may be healed (James 5:16). When it comes to leaving behind the hurts and unresolved issues of our past and rooting out bitterness, we have the sure knowledge that we can overcome the past through our faith and through what Jesus did for us on the cross!
It’s a popular trend in contemporary culture for people to blame their present problems on others or events from their past—their parents, their siblings, their peers, their environment, their heredity, their circumstances. While these factors certainly affect the trajectory of people’s lives, this approach enables them to evade responsibility for themselves or their actions. It keeps them from having the faith to take action to change their lives and circumstances.
However, the Christian life is about overcoming obstacles, rising above our circumstances, and not letting challenges and setbacks dictate the course of our lives and the state of our hearts and minds. The Christian life is about making stepping stones out of stumbling blocks. It is about being healed in body, heart, and mind through faith and becoming whole through the Lord’s love and forgiveness. Through God’s Word, we can become free from the bondage of bitterness, unhappiness, and trauma from the past. By God’s grace, problems of the past are laid to rest and overridden through the process of His renewal and transformation of our minds (Romans 12:2).
We are all products of our environment to some extent, and as such have been influenced positively in some respects and negatively in others. No one in this world has had completely positive experiences; everyone has had difficulties and hurts caused by past experiences, some of which have had long-lasting effects. The good news is that the Lord has promised to strengthen and help us in every difficulty or challenge we face in life. Our circumstances—both past and present—do not have to control our lives, whether emotionally, mentally, or spiritually.
The Lord and His Word put the responsibility on each of us for how we react to whatever situations we find ourselves in. God has given each person a free will and free choice, and He is constantly asking us to make the right decisions and to take the right steps. As we do so, His Spirit will empower us and give us His grace and strength.
Those who have experienced difficulties in life and have overcome them are often able to help others to have the courage and faith to overcome their difficulties. Their examples give hope to people that it is possible to overcome great difficulties in life and rise above seemingly impossible situations, and to even triumph in the face of despair. They inspire us to have faith that God will work in our lives and situations and that all things will work together for good to them that love God, even as His Word promises (Romans 8:28).
When God allows us to suffer hurts or trials or losses, He never allows more than we can bear—only enough to bring out the sweetness and valuable changes and lessons in our lives (1 Corinthians 10:13). According to God’s Word, the trials in life that we face are designed to strengthen us. “And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast” (1 Peter 5:10).
Think about it. If our lives were problem-free, we might become complacent and never build the strength of character that comes from fighting to overcome problems. And we would probably find it difficult to relate to and have compassion on others who are experiencing difficulties. “He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When they are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us” (2 Corinthians 1:4).
If we didn’t experience problems, hardship, and challenges, we might miss the beautiful miracle that takes place when we discover how much we need Jesus and we draw close to Him. We might never learn that we can always find strength in Him when we have no place else to turn. We might not experience how His grace is sufficient and His strength is made perfect in our weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9).
The Apostle Paul gives us the secret for finding contentment regardless of our circumstances—past or present. “I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content: I know how to be abased, and I know how to abound. Everywhere and in all things I have learned both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” (Philippians 4:11–13).
God wants our joy to be full and to overflow (John 15:11). We can live in that joy by giving Him praise and honor both in the good times and in times of trouble. “Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus” (1 Thessalonians 5:18).
Originally published June 2003. Adapted and republished May 2026. Read by Lenore Welsh.